It’s OK to be Average!

I may excel in certain things, but I’ll be “just average” in a lot of areas in my life. And you know what?

It’s Ok to be Average!

This phrase changed my life because I grew up constantly trying to excel in everything. Nothing is wrong with that. I believe that we should strive to do our best in whatever we do. However, if our happiness and self-worth depend on the outcome, then we need to reflect on why we are so driven towards our goals in the first place.

Mine was the desire for the approval of others…

I was in 3rd grade when I scored 18 out of 20 on a test. I can’t remember the subject, but I recalled what my teacher told my mom, “your daughter is an underachiever.” My mom pushed me to study hard and get good grades. And I did!

I went home from school one evening, beaming with pride as I announced that I was 4th in my class. My mom wasn’t happy. “You could have been on top of your class if you studied much harder,” she said. So, I guess from that time on I wasn’t satisfied with whatever I achieved in life

Now, I realized God has blessed me so much…

I’m not rich, but I have enough. I am able to buy, cook and eat any food I like. I have so many outfits to choose from. I have a stable job. I am able to help others in my own little way. I have friends I can count on. I am married to the man I love. Most of all I have a God who loves me unconditionally!

My life is not perfect…

I have wishes too – having a healthy baby, traveling to Europe, starting my own business, getting a Masters degree, financial freedom, etc. I am working on these goals, one step at a time. But does my happiness and self-worth still depend on the outcome?

No! I choose to be happy now…

I will find joy in the journey towards my goals. I may never become supermom nor the best travel blogger in the world. But, I’m ok being ME. For even if I don’t reach all of my dreams – I have lived, laughed, and loved with all of my heart!

Happy Sunday everyone!


Life Travel Soul



    1. Hi there! 😊 I used to be very competitive. This phrase took some time to sink in and it was a struggle at first to accept that it’s ok not to excel in everything. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and have a great Sunday!

  1. I think I’m the same way, I want to be the best “me” that I can be. Currently I’d say I have come a long way and I also live a comfortable life with two healthy and happy kids. My husband and I work hard for what we have. I’d say that I am satisfied with what we’ve accomplished together but there’s always room for improvements and there’s always the next “thing” we want to tackle. I think that if you don’t have goals and if you stop learning, then you stop living.

    1. This post came from my journal when I was trying to reflect on my life after 40+ years. Like you, I realized I’ve come a long way too and there’a so much to be grateful for. It’a not perfect, but it’s ok! And yes, we should continue to reach for our goals, learn, and live! Thank you so much for reading – really appreciate your comment.

  2. I can SO relate to this topic. It is OK to be average – you’re not failing, right? So what’s the issue? Having enough and being happy with it is good. We need to be thankful for being able to cover the essentials. Anything more is a plus but not needed :). I mean things can be a lot worse and it’s good to be thankful for what we currently have. LOVE this post- thanks for sharing your thoughts!

    Nancy ♥

  3. Reblogged this on magnoliajem and commented:
    I’m reblogging a post that really hit me today. Fritzie says in one of the comments that she wrote it while reflecting on her 40+ years so far. Well, I’ve been reflecting on my 60+ years and am still struggling with the truism that it’s OK to be average. Like Fritzie, my parents and teachers all called me “underachiever” and encouraged/pushed me to do/be better. I don’t know about Fritzie, but my parents didn’t hesitate to let me know how disappointed they were when I didn’t pull myself out of the ranks of underachievers. When I graduated from college exactly 20 years after high school and then from law school, my parents finally told me they were proud of me. By then I was 40, and I just didn’t believe them. After 40 years of letting them down, how was it possible they were suddently proud of me? I’ve spent a lifetime trying to prove to them and to myself that I’m not an “underachiever”, trying to somehow earn their posthumous approval. Impossible and irrational, I know. The result has been a lifetime of self-criticism, disappointment, even depression that I was still one of the “underachieving” masses. Four years of retirement and reflection have helped me to realize that the underachiever label isn’t a death sentence. That it’s merely a recognition that no one can be the best in everything. I admit I still have some way to go toward accepting that being average is OK. Reading and re-reading Fritzie’s blog will help me to do that.

    1. It’s sad but I ’ll never know if my mom was ever proud of me. She died years ago and I had forgiven her for all the unkind words. My dad was always very supportive of my efforts. His 79 years old now and he’s still my no.1 fan. 😊 When I was going through that midlife crisis, he reminded me that I have accomplished a lot in life. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I went through years of self-criticism too. I was also feeling down for years because of unfulfilled dreams and I was so disappointed with myself. It took years before I finally accepted ”Me” and it’s ok not to excel in everything in life.

      1. I really hope so. Life is unpredictable and there’s still a lot of challenges ahead. But, I’m trying to put positivity back into my life – starting with a good dose of self-acceptance.

    1. Thanks Andrea! Yes, we are so much alike. We have a lot of things to talk about., Let me know if you’re going to NYC. We are 3 hours away, but I might be able to visit the city when you’re there.

  4. The word ‘average’ isn’t sitting well with me. Average? We are all enough. We are as we are. Know who that is and know what you want to be, grow and develop towards that. That’s one lesson I’m still learning but really believe.

    I’ve read the comments from all of the above – none of you would begin to be judged or described as ‘average’ anyway – you all come across as accomplished to me!

    ‘Average’ is a word that is so relative and has probably different meanings to so many but it isn’t who you are. Self-acceptance, self-love, knowing your strengths and weaknesses, improving our self-esteem are all good to develop when your childhood has hindered them – girls you are not average (that word does not scream who you are …) you are survivors, achievers, and many many things – but certainly not average! xxx

    1. I think you’re right that the word average is so relative and has different meanings to so many. I wasn’t comfortable with the word myself for a long time because I was always pushed to excel. Telling myself that it’s ok not to be the best, ”numero uno ” all the time made me happier. And yes, there’s room to grow and become better. My happiness doesn’t rely on how much I have achieved anymore. I’m ok and thankful for this life.

    1. Hi Wendy, for many years I’ve struggled with what others think too. It took years before I finally learned to accept my strengths and weaknesses. Thank you so much for reading and sharing your thoughts.

  5. My best friend’s mother was the same exact way to her in grade school, and I remember how much of a failure she felt so many times. And it really broke my heart. However, it taught her responsibility and she was beyond her maturity level at that age. She’s now becoming a doctor, and it’s because her mother pushed her so hard how she became so successful in life. But you’re absolutely right, it’s okay to be average. I was an average student, and I turned out just fine.

    1. Despite being labeled as an underachiever, I’m glad I turned out just fine too. 😊 I still have my goals in front of me but my happiness doesn’t depend on my achievements anymore.

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